tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post3252411224208911153..comments2023-10-20T05:17:50.553-04:00Comments on Stuff could always be worse: Where is My Dad At?Kim@stuffcould....http://www.blogger.com/profile/03566751822418137457noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-2357642250016509872012-09-17T22:26:56.517-04:002012-09-17T22:26:56.517-04:00Maybe you can ask him to describe what home looks ...Maybe you can ask him to describe what home looks like. And encourage him to talk about what he used to do at his home. He might be thinking of the home he grew up in, but Heaven is the best home for all of us. HUGS sweet friend, sorry you're having to go through this. One thing I learned is to not try and convince them otherwise. It just causes more frustration. Becky Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15350206500487732249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-83715692346899012152012-09-14T00:29:12.048-04:002012-09-14T00:29:12.048-04:00I went through the same thing with my mother. She...I went through the same thing with my mother. She insisted she wasn't home when in fact she was. It was amazing in one aspect, she would be complaining about wanting to go home, yet I watched her make a cup of instant coffee. Her body went through the same exact motions, as it had for years, knew exactly where the cups are, where the coffee was, the drawer with the spoons but she insisted she wasn't home. It is very sad, indeed. <br /><br />I will keep both you and your father in my thoughts and prayers. Sextanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02869179401767968180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-35068927694579968602012-09-12T18:01:50.969-04:002012-09-12T18:01:50.969-04:00Be assured that I want to go "home" much...Be assured that I want to go "home" much sooner than later, and I am quite sure that your dad and I are talking about the same place. I can certainly understand how hard that is to hear by those who will have to wait a little longer before being reunited with their loved ones, though.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349087080262856079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-38005977430693975092012-09-11T09:28:38.832-04:002012-09-11T09:28:38.832-04:00Thinking and praying for you all.Thinking and praying for you all.Clarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16569992348809825255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-3962577738482224342012-09-07T22:12:58.337-04:002012-09-07T22:12:58.337-04:00Thinking of you and sending prayers and strength y...Thinking of you and sending prayers and strength your way. My mom fell during the week and, at age 96, I fear for the worst. Hugs!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-23454192211647226502012-09-06T22:19:36.087-04:002012-09-06T22:19:36.087-04:00How frustrating it must be for him..Poor man. The ...How frustrating it must be for him..Poor man. The last years of his life are a time when he should be able to relax and let others care for him. Tell him what a blessing he is to you and that every-time you do something for him, you are blessed..<br />then add, "Please let me be blessed dad." This way he will feel like he is doing something for you instead of you doing for him. xxSr Crystal Mary Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509227559164880311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-86008347639208933732012-09-06T11:58:14.030-04:002012-09-06T11:58:14.030-04:00It's difficult to see our loved ones suffer. I...It's difficult to see our loved ones suffer. I wonder if your dad is referring to his real home in heaven? That would be a lovely though sad thought...Deborah Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14415814125499548149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-17585127312911171492012-09-06T09:26:51.775-04:002012-09-06T09:26:51.775-04:00My dad passed away last month - on the other side ...My dad passed away last month - on the other side of the world - so hard. But he was 95, blind and nearly completely deaf, and did not have Altzheimer's so he was terribly terribly bored and frustrated. It's never easy. And you miss them so much.fiftyoddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17372578925298011630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-78266042580346258142012-09-05T10:20:31.884-04:002012-09-05T10:20:31.884-04:00OH how sad, Kim... It is truly hard and very sad t...OH how sad, Kim... It is truly hard and very sad to see our loved ones change mentally.. He truly might be thinking about his heavenly home. God Bless Your Daddy ---and God Bless YOU.<br />Hugs,<br />BetsyBetsy Banks Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16223591156634767330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-37179118097118991512012-09-05T01:29:35.472-04:002012-09-05T01:29:35.472-04:00Oh I am so glad he has you. And maybe he does thin...Oh I am so glad he has you. And maybe he does think of heaven as home. I know I sure do! <br />hugs<br />Take care of you too.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07040738593336836064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-76744225541666435362012-09-04T11:52:36.340-04:002012-09-04T11:52:36.340-04:00memory loss and/or mental confusion is tough to co...memory loss and/or mental confusion is tough to cope with, my thoughts are with you all.<br /><br />Caregivingly Yours, Patrick Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14000299655117252000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-66874101660487457852012-09-04T11:41:33.328-04:002012-09-04T11:41:33.328-04:00My dad wasn't always of sound mind in his last...My dad wasn't always of sound mind in his last days either. It was hard to watch him suffer like that. He knew he wasn't well, but I'm not sure how much he knew. Some days he didn't even recognize me. I definitely empathize with you.sprinkleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09081967372702276914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-12932541463798951812012-09-04T09:08:37.290-04:002012-09-04T09:08:37.290-04:00I'm so sorry. I hope he finds some mental com...I'm so sorry. I hope he finds some mental comfort. Lisa @ Two Bears Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03464839163693785901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-38653032428978774142012-09-04T09:06:33.936-04:002012-09-04T09:06:33.936-04:00Oh so touching and hard. Haven't been through ...Oh so touching and hard. Haven't been through that stage quite yet. Becky Andrewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10053287942631827068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-39415874075683774342012-09-04T07:40:03.409-04:002012-09-04T07:40:03.409-04:00It is very hard when we see our parents so confuse...It is very hard when we see our parents so confused. At least you are there for him when he needs you.Are We There Yet!https://www.blogger.com/profile/17476976305383634060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-75550948306062413342012-09-04T04:41:01.009-04:002012-09-04T04:41:01.009-04:00I am so sorry. Words cannot change this difficult...I am so sorry. Words cannot change this difficult time, but my thoughts are with you. Cyber hugs.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-51462459085639194242012-09-03T19:34:47.688-04:002012-09-03T19:34:47.688-04:00It is so sad when our parents get older and act mo...It is so sad when our parents get older and act more like our children than our parents. It is so hard to watch them suffer and I hope he finds peace.<br /><br />Hugs to you Kim! <br />Eat To Livehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851191468716916221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-78426687520381432102012-09-03T16:22:27.727-04:002012-09-03T16:22:27.727-04:00Kim, I'm so sorry. I know this has to be so di...Kim, I'm so sorry. I know this has to be so difficult for you! I'm in tears now thinking what this must be like for you. I like the ideas Joanne threw out for you and hope you can find some comfort in the caring words of those here. I also pray both you and your father feel the loving arms of Jesus as He holds you during those tough times. Boondock Ma (Kim's Mom)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12913040101512312836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-89285165806244108992012-09-03T15:37:26.733-04:002012-09-03T15:37:26.733-04:00Oh, Kim, I know this is a difficult time...praying...Oh, Kim, I know this is a difficult time...praying for you and Karen...and the whole family...whichever home(s) your dad is thinking about right now, it is good that his loved ones are there to hold his hand and show their love...Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08788724686085310730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-79454210527228157232012-09-03T12:30:10.464-04:002012-09-03T12:30:10.464-04:00Kim, that was my first thought when reading your p...Kim, that was my first thought when reading your post. This world is not our home, but a dropping off point till our heavenly father comes for us. I do feel for you and know first hand what its like to watch a family member go through this. <br /><br />May GOD grant you peace in Jesus name and give you strength. Remembering you and your family in prayer. Tammy@Simple Southern Happinesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027582211262125136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-80847388343932160292012-09-03T12:14:06.390-04:002012-09-03T12:14:06.390-04:00So sorry about your dad. It is good that you are ...So sorry about your dad. It is good that you are there to comfort him. I think you are right.Karen Mortensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15991996620864410833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-41203957278664546532012-09-03T11:39:48.706-04:002012-09-03T11:39:48.706-04:00I think you may be right. I Used to work with pati...I think you may be right. I Used to work with patients that had suffered strokes and one thing that we used to do was to play music from their younger days and show them old family albums. Or pictures of old movie stars. There were times that they would just light up with a feeling of recognition. You are loving him and trying to make him comfortable. You are a good Daughter and he must be a good Dad too. Prayers on their way.<br />Blessings, JoanneJoannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01701170619308062747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-27479493672414987482012-09-03T11:32:26.127-04:002012-09-03T11:32:26.127-04:00so sorry to hear this Kim, he might mean his home ...so sorry to hear this Kim, he might mean his home with his parents. when daddy lost his memory to Parkinson's and Dementia, he often talked like he was in his home with his parents, and talked to his brothers like they were teens. or like you said he could mean heaven. daddy would say Jesus please take me home MadSnapperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08163140037276496519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-90050965815737566322012-09-03T11:21:11.851-04:002012-09-03T11:21:11.851-04:00He could also could be thinking of his childhood h...He could also could be thinking of his childhood home. Next time he says he wants to go home try asking his questions about it. I hear this all the time after a stroke or dementia occurs. One thing that usually works is saying "I know you miss your home but could you stay here for the night? In the morning I can make some phone calls to see about getting you home"". (Only say that if he won't remember what you said.) <br />When women have strokes or have dementia often they look for their young children. "Why haven't they come home from school?" Instead of telling them their children are now grown I will say something like they went out to lunch with someone she knew well when she was young and they will be back after dinner. <br />Men often want to get up to go to work. For them I say that it is Sunday or that their boss called and the power is out and he will call when the power is back on. <br />I think the best thing is trying to figure out just where your dad is at. And most definitely he could be speaking of heaven. In which case just say that you must be looking forward to seeing your mom and dad or whoever. <br />Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03479872783727855901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5010952548206164640.post-12100365651789000292012-09-03T11:11:19.285-04:002012-09-03T11:11:19.285-04:00Kim, it's so sad to see our parents declining....Kim, it's so sad to see our parents declining. Maybe your dad is thinking of his childhood home. Or maybe his mind plays tricks on him and he sees things differently. I hope he feels better soon.<br />Peace,<br />MuffMuffiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542678482763101104noreply@blogger.com